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How to Discuss ED with your Partner

Although today we live in a world where men are more comfortable than ever to talk openly about their physical problems, even problems with intimacy, there are still men who find such subjects taboo.  In particular, talking with a spouse or significant other about something as personal as erectile dysfunction can be challenging.  This may be particularly difficult for couples who’ve experienced a great sexual relationship together and see sex as a fundamental part of their interaction.  However, talking is one of the most important first steps in finding creative ways to address the problem of erectile dysfunction.  Different strategies can be used for men who have trouble starting this conversation with their partners.  Of course, implementing any strategy has to start with the man realizing that erectile dysfunction is an illness like any other and is not something that he is to blame for.  As with any illness, the love of a partner or some loved one is an important aspect of the healing process.

Looking for a Comfortable Way to Begin the Conversation

Often, the most difficult part of a taboo conversation is simply starting it.  You can work on bringing this topic up with your partner by practicing.  You can practice in front of the mirror or with someone else you don’t know well in order to decrease any fear you have.  You can also look at how different people discuss topics of this nature with their partners online or on TV shows or other places in order to get some tips on the best way to do this.  There are numerous ways to start the conversation. But, being honest is probably one of the best ways.  You can discuss any fears you have about the topic with your partner, then beginning stating that you are having a problem.  If you have read about the problem discuss what you know and don’t know.  You can express your opinion fully and listen to what your partner thinks.

Have Supportive Behavior Matters While Talking About ED

Your partner will likely notice any problems that you are having when being intimate, physical or otherwise.  This may lead to emotional arguments or worse.  If you realize that you are having a problem, you should talk with your partner before problems escalate.  You can tell your partner whatever you know about erectile dysfunction or what you would like to learn.  You should ensure your partner that your problem is not based on a lack of attraction and that something physical is taking place.  An open conversation where you seek to support each other will help you work together to address this illness.

Information on Erectile Dysfuction is Power

For most illness, the more you know the better off you are.  Erectile dysfunction is no exception.  This is particularly important when talking with your partner about this problem.  There are a variety of sources of information on and offline that are produced by reputable sources.  WebMD, Mayo Clinic, and MEDLINE Plus are just a few to start with.  These websites and books also offer tips and techniques for discussing this information with your partner.  This material can be shared with your partner in order to help you explain the problem and how it is impacting your interaction with your partner.  In the age we live in you may want to watch a video online which offers information on this problem and helps your partner see what you’re going through.

Taking a Break From Sex For a Brief Period

According to sex therapists, in order to focus on the emotional aspects of intimacy with your partner, you may need to take a break from physical intimacy which requires an erection. This approach is useful because it allows couples to focus on any underlying psychological or mental health issues which may be affecting erectile functioning. A visit to a sex therapist can help you and your partner discuss various others non-physical problems that need attention. For example, stress can is a risk

factor for erectile dysfunction. Perhaps stress from a job or family relationships or something else is distracting you and needs to be discussed in depth with a therapist and your partner as a potential source of your illness. Also, anxiety, anger and other emotions may be impacting your sexual interaction.

The Importance of Outside Help

After an initial conversation about erectile dysfunction, you should work with your partner to develop a plan which includes seeking help from outside experts. A visit to your doctor is high on the list in order to figure out what physical problems may be causing your erection problems. The problems could be related to other underlying diseases so you should visit the doctor as fast as you can. In addition, other emotional problems may be causing your problem, so seeking out help from sex therapists or other types of counselors/psychologists is a useful step towards coming to a solution for you and your partner.